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Anxious attachment
Checking their last online: the loop, and the one breath that loosens it
A Clinical Psychologist on why you keep checking their last online — what the loop is, why it feeds itself, and the one breath that loosens it.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Aug 239 min read
Waiting for a reply: texting anxiety in an anxious-attachment pattern
A Clinical Psychologist on texting anxiety in anxious attachment — why a silent phone hurts, and what to do while you wait.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 14 min read
"Am I too needy?" Reframing reassurance-seeking as a nervous system seeking safety
A Clinical Psychologist on "am I too needy?" — reframing reassurance-seeking in anxious attachment, and how to ask in a way that works.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 14 min read
Anxious vs avoidant attachment: the difference, and what it means for your relationship
A Clinical Psychologist explains anxious vs avoidant attachment — what separates the two patterns, what they quietly share, and why they so often pair up.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 14 min read
How to talk to your partner about your attachment style (without it becoming a fight)
A Clinical Psychologist on how to talk to your partner about your attachment style without it becoming a fight — what to say, when, and how to ask for help.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 14 min read
Protest behaviour: what your nervous system is doing in those ninety seconds
A Clinical Psychologist on protest behaviour in anxious attachment — what your nervous system does in those ninety seconds, and how to work with it.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 15 min read
Anxious attachment in a long marriage: when it surfaces in midlife
A Clinical Psychologist on anxious attachment in a long marriage — why it can surface in midlife, how it looks, and how to work with it together.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 15 min read
Reaction vs response: the one distinction that changes an anxious-attachment moment
A Clinical Psychologist on reaction vs response — the one distinction that changes an anxious-attachment moment, and how to find the gap between them.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 14 min read
When your partner goes quiet: what to try instead of spiralling
A Clinical Psychologist on what to do when your partner goes quiet — why it happens, why you spiral, and what to try instead.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jul 14 min read
Anxious-attachment workbooks and exercises: what actually helps (Australia)
A Clinical Psychologist on anxious-attachment workbooks and exercises — what to look for, what helps, and the exercises that make a difference.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jun 284 min read
Self-soothing an anxious-attachment spiral: how to steady yourself in the moment
A Clinical Psychologist on self-soothing an anxious-attachment spiral — what's happening, and how to steady yourself in the moment.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jun 275 min read
Becoming securely attached: what earned secure attachment looks like in real life
A Clinical Psychologist on becoming securely attached — what earned secure attachment looks like in real life, and how it grows.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jun 274 min read
The anxious–avoidant cycle: why a partner pulls away, and the way back to each other
A Clinical Psychologist on the anxious–avoidant cycle — why one partner pulls away, why the other pursues, and the way back to each other.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jun 275 min read
Can anxious attachment change? What the research says about the map, not the verdict
A Clinical Psychologist on whether anxious attachment can change — what the research says, what changing looks like, and the way through.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jun 276 min read
Anxious attachment in committed relationships: a guide to steadying and connecting
A Clinical Psychologist on anxious attachment in committed relationships — what it is, how it shows up, why it isn't a flaw, and the way through.
Dr Narelle Duncan
Jun 279 min read
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