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DR NARELLE DUNCAN · CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST

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Sensitive to your partner's tone: the inner radar, and the two words that give you back the evening

Sensitive to your partner's tone: the inner radar, and the two words that give you back the evening

Sensitive to your partner's tone: the inner radar, and the two words that give you back the evening

Dr Narelle Duncan

Oct 99 min read

Overreacting in arguments and the window of tolerance — illustrated guide cover by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist.

Overreacting in arguments and the window of tolerance — illustrated guide cover by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist.

Overreacting in arguments: why your body gets there first, and how to settle before you speak

Dr Narelle Duncan

Sep 2511 min read

Overthinking at night: why relationship worry picks 3am, and how to set it down

Dr Narelle Duncan

Sep 189 min read

Checking their last online and read receipts, the anxious checking loop — illustrated guide cover by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist.

Checking their last online and read receipts, the anxious checking loop — illustrated guide cover by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist.

Checking their last online: the loop, and the one breath that loosens it

Dr Narelle Duncan

Aug 239 min read

waiting for a reply

waiting for a reply

Waiting for a reply: texting anxiety in an anxious-attachment pattern

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 14 min read

"Am I too needy?" Reframing reassurance-seeking — illustrated guide cover by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist.

"Am I too needy?" Reframing reassurance-seeking — illustrated guide cover by Dr Narelle Duncan, Clinical Psychologist.

"Am I too needy?" Reframing reassurance-seeking as a nervous system seeking safety

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 14 min read

Anxious vs avoidant attachment: the difference, and what it means for your relationship

Anxious vs avoidant attachment: the difference, and what it means for your relationship

Anxious vs avoidant attachment: the difference, and what it means for your relationship

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 14 min read

How to talk to your partner about your attachment style: a way to say it that gets heard

How to talk to your partner about your attachment style: a way to say it that gets heard

How to talk to your partner about your attachment style: a way to say it that gets heard

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 111 min read

protest behaviour

protest behaviour

Protest behaviour: what your nervous system is doing in those ninety seconds

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 15 min read

Anxious attachment in a long marriage: why it surfaces now, and the way back to steady

Anxious attachment in a long marriage: why it surfaces now, and the way back to steady

Anxious attachment in a long marriage: why it surfaces now, and the way back to steady

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 111 min read

Reaction vs response: the one distinction that changes an anxious-attachment moment

Reaction vs response: the one distinction that changes an anxious-attachment moment

Reaction vs response: the one distinction that changes an anxious-attachment moment

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 14 min read

When your partner goes quiet: what to try instead of spiralling

When your partner goes quiet: what to try instead of spiralling

When your partner goes quiet: what to try instead of spiralling

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jul 16 min read

Anxious-attachment workbooks and exercises: what actually helps (Australia)

Anxious-attachment workbooks and exercises: what actually helps (Australia)

Anxious-attachment workbooks and exercises: what actually helps (Australia)

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jun 284 min read

Self-soothing an anxious-attachment spiral: how to steady yourself in the moment

Self-soothing an anxious-attachment spiral: how to steady yourself in the moment

Self-soothing an anxious-attachment spiral: how to steady yourself in the moment

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jun 275 min read

Becoming securely attached: what earned secure attachment looks like in real life

Becoming securely attached: what earned secure attachment looks like in real life

Becoming securely attached: what earned secure attachment looks like in real life

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jun 277 min read

anxious-avoidant cycle

anxious-avoidant cycle

The anxious–avoidant cycle: why a partner pulls away, and the way back to each other

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jun 2710 min read

Can anxious attachment change? What the research says about the map, not the verdict

Can anxious attachment change? What the research says about the map, not the verdict

Can anxious attachment change? What the research says about the map, not the verdict

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jun 278 min read

Anxious attachment in committed relationships: a guide to steadying and connecting

Anxious attachment in committed relationships: a guide to steadying and connecting

Anxious attachment in committed relationships: a guide to steadying and connecting

Dr Narelle Duncan

Jun 279 min read

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